You never know when you will need a part of you that you have locked away. You never know when a part of yourself you deemed to be worthless will deliver the exact skill you need to make a difference for yourself or another. – Debbie Ford
It is that time of year where we find ourselves caught in the seam of Autumn and Winter. The lovely bare arms of the trees appear to reach out to me, offering comfort and strength for the colder months ahead. It sounds a little twee and granola I know but that is how I feel. Trees have always been a source of great sympathy and resonance for me. And yes, I have been known to hug a grande Eucalyptus or two.
Our feelings may or may not be meaningful. We just need to recognize and own them. Deal and detach. Sharing is optional. Hiding is not. It will be the very feelings we deny that will persist like a Jehovah Witness at your door offering Good News and a Watchtower subscription.
It is tempting to judge ourselves for the way we feel. Especially if we are feeling angry or fearful. It is helpful to remind ourselves that we are not our feelings. Nor do we need to be punished for our misguided judgment. Everything in life begs for attention and validation. When a particular feeling overwhelms you or keeps you from being loving or lovable? Ask yourself; ” Am I worthy and deserving of the way I am feeling? ”
If you feel you can do a little better for yourself go for the next best feeling and work your way up and out of the pain. Now that’s progress!
Most of us like to see ourselves a certain way. We are strong. Nice. Funny. Creative. Devoted. Shy. The truth is we are all of those things and more. Our anger alone will keep our hearts at a distance. Not to mention the tension we create with our anxiety and confusion. We also are capable of extending kindness and extraordinary graciousness when given the opportunity. Living authentically requires us to reveal our true being to ourselves. As Debbie Ford expressed in the quote above – the very part of you kept locked away may be exactly the thing you need to reveal to make a difference.
At this tender time of year when we are reuniting with old friends and family emotions may run high. The fine art of detachment is most necessary. Detachment does not mean you don’t give a damn it just means you are not going to wallow in the damn. Give yourself permission to feel the way you feel but act as if you are worthy and deserving of Joy and Light. Go easy on yourself and others will benefit as well. Heaven knows we can all use a break.
*For all those in the Friday’s Child Circle Of Prayer and for all those in need. We send… Love, Light and Oceans of Bliss for the Highest Good of All. And so it is.
Have a sweet one!