Dolce Far Niente
The time to relax is when you don’t have time for it. – Sydney J. Harris
On this balmy hotter than July day I find it is “sweet to do nothing.” I wasn’t always able to do nothing. For the better part of my life I had to be busy-busy-busy or I felt as though I was a loafing reprobate.
These days, an entire day of listening to music, reading a novel, having a long conversation with a good friend on the phone or playing “catch” with my kitty Marcello is the heaven I know. I can actually relax. Who knew? With this newfound latent skill I find I am magnetizing the most interesting people into my life. People that actually enjoy life and know how to love.
I have moved away from the dawn of the desperate and into the morning of the pretty darn clever.
I have a seminar series I offer on the phone called Life In The Mirror. The seminar is based on the theory that the life you live everyday is a reflection of your soul-life. What we attract into our lives mirror what we love and fear. Our more challenging trials and relationships are mirroring bits and pieces of our disowned selves.
These are usually the circumstances and relationships that have the emotional charge of a live cable wire. We are uncomfortable and disconcerted by them. They beguile us. We deny them. The more we deny them the closer we move toward the mirror. A mirror may distort the truth but they don’t really lie. In my life I over-identified with being on purpose. I needed to at least keep busy to prove that was at least useful. With this misbegotten idea in play I attracted people to me that wouldn’t know their purpose if they tripped over it in broad daylight.
Send in the clowns! Depressed, clueless, whiny, useless, bores.
Disown your power and you will attract people in who use that power.
You know how it is. If you don’t have some you best get ya some, whatever it is. Siphoning off someone else’s ‘some’ works for awhile. There is always someone that needs to be useful that will allow it. It feels right until the sycophants become resentful. Hate that when it happens and it always happens. Always.
My fear of being a professional lay-a-bout kept me in a spin. When you are spinning you cannot see clearly. These days, I get stuff done while take my loafing seriously. I know what I must to do and I trust myself to get it done in a timely fashion. I no longer feel compelled to assign some random deadline to a task and obsess over it. I go easy. I don’t push. I no longer find value in feeling spent.
As a reward for my awakening I find myself swimming in warm waters with an exotic class of fish, I mean people. People who know their porpoise, I mean purpose. People that amuse and entertain me. ( Which is all I have ever asked for in a human. ) People that know how to share their love and energy. They don’t need me to jump start their heart because they do that for themselves. We just enjoy each other’s company.
I’m so NOT bored.
Sending… Love, Light and Oceans of Bliss!