Koi No Yokan
“Sometimes you have to get to know someone really well to realize you’re really strangers.” – Mary Tyler Moore
Koi no yokan is a Japanese phrase that describes the sense one can have upon first meeting a person that the two of you are going to fall in love. This feeling differs from western minded “love at first sight” as it does not imply that the feeling of love exists, only the knowledge that a future love is inevitable. The Japanese would never be so presumptuous or impractical as to cop to all that love at first sight jazz.
This feeling of knowing does not only have to come dressed up as romantic love. How many times have you met a total stranger and; “Louie, I think this is the beginning of a beautiful friendship.” Or you go to a new city or country for a visit and you know something wonderful is going to happen there. Casablanca may be a desert but not for you. For you it is all healing waters and rainbows.
Inebriating and rare isn’t it?
We fall in love. We build the friendship. We move to rainbow land. All is happy clappy as a born-again Baptist Sunday service. Life happens. Things go wrong. Somehow, somewhere, we get over the rainbow. Fall out of love into a deep depression. Your beautiful friendship goes the way of last year’s fashion. And ya gotta get out of this dump!
It is enough to make you question your intuition or at least your taste in lovers.
The thing is…
People and things come to us. They look and feel a certain way because it is what we are ready and able to hold at the time. There is nothing strange about a stranger until we get to know them. Karma calls and there is plenty of dharma to support it. We accept the gift. Koi no yokan is real. You are not delusional. You were not wrong to fall, friend, or forward your mail to the new address. The mistake is thinking that if a good thing does not last forever you made a poor choice and you need a punishing.
You didn’t make a poor choice. A punishment is better served to a naughty five year old.
Clearly, it is time to embrace a new passion.
Holding on is for lightweights. Letting go is the stuff heroes are made of.
Feel the feelings. Learn the lessons. Trust yourself to know love and true adventure when it comes knocking.
Answer the door.
Sending… Love, Light and Oceans of Bliss for the Highest Good of All.
And so it is!