Long Live The Blues
The song goes – It’s the most wonderful time of the year. Really? I beg to differ. How about if almost every year you feel as though you are just dragging yourself through the holidaze until we get into the New Year?
From Thanksgiving until a few days after New Year’s Day heaps of people feel this way. Now this is a long time to be living with the blues. For all of the supposed joy, merry making, gift giving, and over-eating the season has to offer? It also offers up a deep feeling of loss and inexplicable sadness to people that experience seasonal depression. It exacerbates heartache and loneliness. And when it looks as though everyone is having a good time at the on-going party but you? It only makes you feel worse.
There may be an explanation for feeling poorly. You suffered a recent loss. Loss of a job, a pet, a loved one. Loss of a way of life that you struggled to hold on to. A divorce. Everyone can understand this. It’s called life and we have all been through these life altering events. No one will give you grief over this.
When it happens year after year? Then it seems to be a problem for the people around you. It’s not as if you choose to be blue. It just creeps in and takes over your spirit like some kind of soul-munching alien at this time of year.
Here’s the thing. Before you get into such a state of resistance that you make yourself physically ill. If you are able to assign one person you love and understands your crazy-self to be on your team, do it. They will help you navigate the intrepid sea of smiling faces, gift wrapping, and forced frivolity. If you do not have such a person in your life being sociable will be a bit harder to manage but it can be done. Every fiber of your being is telling you to hide under the covers. That is not helpful. Don’t do it. It will only make you feel worse. Make that massive effort and show up to a few of the events and hang a little. Just a little. There is no glory in sadness. Habit yourself away from inertia. Baby steps are fine. Do what you can do which is more than you actually feel like doing and call it a holiday.
You will most likely still feel off until the entire catastrophe is over. But you won’t feel isolated. Not isolating is the key to killing the blues.
Look, it’s a few weeks of madness and it is unavoidable.
This too shall pass.
It always does.
Sending Love, Light & Oceans of Bliss.