It’s no good pretending that any relationship has a future if your record collections disagree violently or if your favorite films wouldn’t even speak to each other if they met at a party. – Nick Hornby
I would like to add to Nick Hornby’s quote: If your views on race, religion, and humor are antithetical. If your lifestyles are too divergent. If your political beliefs are too far apart. I’m not saying you can’t enjoy the company of someone that is your polar opposite. It is pleasurable and easy enough to spend the amount of time it takes to eat lunch with anyone. Not difficult at all to accept a person you don’t completely resonate with as a casual acquaintances. But deep bonds require a profound understanding. A strong foundation of agreement will grow and age well when you are in relationships with people that are like spirits.
If you don’t expect much you will rarely be disappointed. The thing is. We expect quite a lot from our families, friends, significant others. As far fetched as it may sound. We expect a certain kind of bliss in relationships with other humans. When that doesn’t happen we feel disappointed. Loving people is a holy business. Still, no one is perfect and staying open to what may eventuate in any given scenario with another human is wise. It will keep us from feeling devastated if the relationship isn’t working out as planned.
Everyone sees things from a different perspective. You have a right to whatever feelings you have about anything at all. We all have our own path to walk. Not all disappointments are deal breakers and may even be blessings once we are on the other side of the pain. Manifesting what is in your best interests and letting go of other outcomes will eventually bring you joy. We move forward and beyond most of the unhappiness life offers. We adjust our focus.
We have to be willing to let go of people that prove to be a constant source of disappointment. You will know when someone comes along that is a keeper. Then as much as we want to love and be loved. We must still create healthy boundaries and keep that crazy love story in our head from over-working reality. Remain grounded. Solid ground will allow the roots of love to grow and thrive. Make sure when you are creating boundaries that they are coming from a place of love. You can’t control people. They need to do what they need to do and you have to appreciate that. Encourage it. Stand up for yourself and insist on your space to continue to express yourself on your own. Boundaries are the only way to have your needs met. They are not meant to manipulate another person. They actually protect the other person.
We all need a tribe that understands and cares for us. If we are lucky we have enough love. If we are blessed we have an abundance of it. You don’t have to lower your standards in order to have a relationship. You do have to let go of your expectations. The good news is. Like will always attract like. And like spirits are meant to find each other and remain.
Sending Love, Light & Oceans of Bliss.