I feel that we are born to our fate and our fate is born to us. Like our family of origin there is nothing we can do about it. But our Destiny is in our own hands. We define our own True North. It is a plus when your outside self matches your inside self. It’s a plus but not a requirement. Don’t forget that. It is important to understand this as we age and our bodies appear to prescribe to a nihilist philosophy all its own.
We all have our habits and rituals. Some we choose. Some choose us. Every one of them keeps us from going off the rails and traveling south when we are supposed to be heading north. Every habit that is not self-destructive brings us home.
Habit: It is important to have a spiritual practice. Something one does religiously on a daily basis aside from brushing your teeth. My practice includes: meditation, a few simple prayers, visioning, and writing down at least two pages worth of whatever feelings I am experiencing. I also vocalize and do a little dancing. I find these habits to be helpful. They are the foundation for a peaceful day even though random chaos may throw in a lick or two before we get to the bridge.
Habit: I am required to tend to a small garden where I am living. I like the idea of gardens. I like to look at gardens. I don’t like taking care of gardens because you have to go outside to do so. Did you know that there are bugs and crawly things outside? I am sensitive to light and allergic to the sun. I have to go out very early in the morning or just before dark at night to water and futz with vegetation. In order for me to perform this unwanted ritual I had to check my attitude. I have competed that mission. I decided that watering the lawn is actually an act of gratitude. Plants tend to be grateful for the love you show them. There is a lot to learn about life in a garden. Mostly, if you water it – it will grow.
Habit: Noting that rush of joy that comes from experiencing simple things. Watching the neighbors cat walk along my wooden fence. Folding clean white linens still warm and lavender scented from the dryer. Hearing a child in the check out line burst into laughter over a balloon they were given. Buttering my toast and taking that first sip of coffee in the morning is number one on the list these days. They are moments. They are significant. They are what we have. They are what we have when we are going through the worst of times. They are a reminder that there is always something to be grateful for. Always something we can use as a reset button to wall off negativity.
Habit: Finding the humor in every situation. Going for the laugh no matter what boundary of fear must be crossed to make it happen. Allowing every part of who you are out into the open. When you hear a call – answer it. Our intentions are revealed under the guise of coincidence. Hold what you love and be willing to let it go at the very same time. These habits and so many others will grow your spirit free.
One more habit worth mentioning.
Life can be painful. Give until it stops hurting.
Sending Love, Light & Oceans of Bliss …