Guilt can prevent us from setting the boundaries that would be in our best interests, and in other people’s best interests. ~ Melody Beattie
Are you one of those humans that other humans ask an inordinate amount of emotional and spiritual labor? Are you expected to show up and be there for people you don’t even know? You appear to be kind therefore approachable? The people in your life want you to be available 24/7 and you almost always answer the call.
Hey there nice person. How is that going for ya?
Consider this. Protect yourself with clear boundaries and learn how to say, ‘no’. How useful you care to be to anyone is entirely up to you. You have the right to say no to any an all requests that require you to do emotional, spiritual, or physical labor. It’s not your job to do someone else’s job.
Now, there will be those that take your lack of engagement personally. They will be upset. Especially, people you know well and you have always ‘been there for’ in the past. Can’t really blame them. Good help is hard to find. They will now have to do the work you used to do for them. They will soon discover it is exhausting. When you suddenly implement business hours where there used to be unlimited access folks get upset. The best of them will get over it. The rest of them will leave you in peace.
Where there is no geography there is no boundaries. No worries.
Some people wouldn’t know a boundary if one showed up in their living rooms, wrapped in barbed wire, with a sign on it that said: Don’t Touch!
Take care of yourself nice people. There is no glory in giving to takers.
Now giving to givers? That’s a whole nother other.
Sending Love, Light & Oceans of Bliss …