Every man is a damn fool for at least five minutes every day; wisdom consists in not exceeding the limit. – Elbert Hubbard
There is an ancient Ninja Warrior practice known as The Four Gates. I find it helpful, and wanted to share the basic tenants with you. You know it really is not so important that “we get” the people in our lives. It would be nice. It may make the day a little brighter if we did get them but it isn’t essential. People do what they do. Trying to understand “why” to the point of obsession could take on the parameters of a second career if you aren’t careful.
What does warrant our understanding is knowing ourselves. The Four Gates reveal this understanding.
Making a conscious effort to be with our feelings is a huge step in the right direction of self-knowledge.
Your feelings are not wrong.
Allowing them to flow through you without shame or blame is the key to your sanity.
Flow through you being the operative expression here.
Feel them… release them. Holding on to upset creates dis-ease. Dis-order. Dis-content. Your feelings should not have carte blanche to shape your heart and mind. You don’t want your feelings getting in the way of your sacred work. You simply want to feel what is and let go.
I believe our work here on earth is to live well and thrive.
What is good for you and does not harm another being is what is best for everyone.
The Ninjas believed there were four powerful enemies within and without ourselves.
The enemies are: Fear, Power, Clarity, Fatigue. Misunderstanding how these elements are at work in your life can create a world of pain. The Four Gates are four questions. Questions we should ask ourselves whenever we are perplexed by our thinking, doing, or feelings. Checking our energy in this way will make certain what we put out to the Universe, and what we tell ourselves, is a clear reflection of who we really are.
The Four Gates: 1) Is it truthful? 2) Is it helpful? 3) Is it kind? 4) What is my motivation and intention here?
In other words. Is what I am thinking right now the truth? Is what I am about to do going to be helpful? Am I being kind? Is my intention/motivation for the highest good? (And so on.) Try this practice and see if it doesn’t help you to know yourself and trust your heart a little better.
As we go through life we continue to meet ourselves in everyone we encounter.
So really, you are the only person you need to know.
Have a sweet one!